Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is defined by The Mayo Clinic as a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism.
A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs. People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they’re not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships unfulfilling, and others may not enjoy being around them.
“When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time.”Maya Angelou
Here’s some practical ways to deal with someone who has NPD or narcissistic tendencies
- Don’t respond to flattery. Instead learn to develop real confidence.
- Learn to avoid places where narcissists tend to congregate aka online dating apps. It’s not worth the risk. Instead, go out in person and meet people in real life. Online dating is filled with predators, some with personality disorders and some without.
- Reciprocity is important. Don’t give your empathy, kindness, compassion, understanding and patience to people who don’t return it.
- Don’t be afraid to say no to people, to tell people what you think and feel to their face. Because narcissists try to find someone who is scared of his shadow so they can control, bully and manipulate him.
- Learn to have a confident body language and posture. Narcissists always have “off” body language and facial expressions. So try to read other people’s body language and facial expressions better.
- Yours words and actions should be aligned with your values. Therefore, associate only with people who do the same.
- Practice self-love and kindness daily. This includes taking care of your body but also your mind and heart. Go to the gym regularly, and try to have creative hobbies that bring you joy. Social hobbies will help you connect with others.
Misuse is a genuine probability for those in an association with a narcissist. For narcissists’ friends and family, be that as it may, it tends to be hard to separate between acknowledgment of NPD and resilience of harsh conduct.
While it is beneficial to acknowledge that your adored one is experiencing a genuine psychological instability and needing sympathy, it isn’t adequate to persevere through harsh conduct. Be watchful for any maltreatment or abuse—regardless of whether physical, mental, passionate, verbal, sexual, or budgetary—and look for assistance at the earliest opportunity.
On the off chance that you are in a non-oppressive association with a narcissist, it is as yet critical to define firm limits and care for yourself as a matter of first importance. Think about searching out treatment for yourself, just as the help of others in comparative circumstances. By structure up your own versatility and feeling of self-esteem, you will be better prepared to help your join forces with NPD.